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    "I Wish I Hadn’t Rushed Everything": People Over 40 Are Revealing The "Regrets" They Would Redo If They Were Younger, And I Wasn't Expecting This Kind Of Honesty

    "The name of your college means absolutely nothing. Don’t go into debt for a name you think is impressive. It isn’t."

    Even though some people believe that their 20s are supposed to be the "best years of their lives" doesn't mean some older people won't have regrets about the choices they made when they were around this age.

    But rather than keeping these "regrets" secret, Reddit user u/fromrussia_wlove asked: "People over 40, what is something you wish you knew when you were 20?"

    And the answers range from wholesome to funny to downright genius. Here's everything they had to say below:

    1. "It's not the end of the world if you don't know what you're doing in life."

    2. "Look after your back. Work on core strength and sit up straight. If you slouch while gaming, you will start having issues in your mid 30s."


    3. "The name of your college means absolutely nothing. Don’t go into debt for a name you think is impressive. It isn’t."


    4. "I wish I hadn’t rushed everything. I spent my 20s always looking ahead, so much so that I don’t think I ever just ENJOYED being a young adult. Take the time to actively appreciate right now."

    5. "Do not get a fun or flashy car; it's just throwing money away. This also applies to anyone at any age. Buy used, but reliable."


    6. "I wish I'd been aware of how many 'last times' I was going to have, and how most of the time I had no idea it was going to be a last time. Have a group of people you hang out with regularly? Go bowling every Tuesday? Have an event you all go to annually? You are going to have a last time, and you aren't going to see it coming. People's lives can change faster than you think. And especially once people get serious about their careers and/or significant others, friendships just start to fade. You try to meet up, but your schedules don't match. You talk less frequently. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months, then finally a year later, you realize that you aren't really friends anymore. No blow up fight or anything; your lives just are no longer compatible."


    7. "If you haven't felt the first edible in 10 to 15 minutes, don't eat two or three more."

    8. "Don't worry about being weird. You don’t have to fit in. Just find other weird people, and hang with them. Trust me, there’s lots of us. Wave your weird around like a beacon to other weirdos, and we will come."


    9. "You'll be happier if you only try and change yourself. Let other adults do their own adulting."


    10. "Don't listen to what people say. Look at what they do. People will say whatever makes them look or feel good. But when it comes to actions, that's when you get to see who lives by their principles, and who just talks. Even the smallest thing like how do they treat service staff can tell you a lot."

    11. "Start saving."


    "I wasted so much potential earning because my parents were overly cautious about investing. They would only save money in regular savings accounts or CDs. That is the way I was raised. I have made more in mutual funds earnings than their total life savings."


    12. "Have more compassion for people that are struggling. Life has a way of kicking everyone’s ass from time to time. If your ass is currently not being kicked, be sure to savor it. Help others through hard times knowing one day you will have hard times, too. It’s not a race, and together we can make our time here a little bit better."


    13. "Wear sunscreen year-round, and a hat. Skin cancer is coming for ya. Also, put moisturizer on your face AND your neck."

    14. "Don't compare yourself to your friends. We all have our own path to walk. Your friends and neighbors might be bad with their money. Or they might be breaking bad. Don't try to keep up with them. Do what makes sense for you."


    15. "I'm not quite 40, but here's a pro-life tip: The older you get, the less 'cool' things you will tend to do. So start taking that shit in. When I was a teen and even in my 20s, shit was poppin' all the time, but it started to slow when I hit 30. I never really took moments in. Now that my friends and I get together more and more rarely, I would suggest to just take a step back, look at your bros or girlfriends, and just take a deep breath and capture that moment. Take a picture or two."


    16. "Relationships being work means you come across new challenges together and work on it. The basic life stuff shouldn't be too hard beyond an adjustment period."

    17. "No is a complete sentence — feel free to use as you need to."


    18. "Who you know matters a thousand times more than what you know."


    "I worry that this one gets misinterpreted as being part of the 'in-crowd' of people who have connections, so I just want to add that 'who you know' includes the people you meet and are kind to along the way. 

    "If you spend a small amount of effort for many years sincerely caring about what people do and communicating with them, you will have a valuable network of people."


    19. "Retirement might feel like it will never come, but it will. Start saving for it now, so you can hopefully retire comfortably."

    20. "My rule is that I will behave kindly and with good intentions, but I can't run my life around other people's feelings and opinions. I've spent way too much life trying to please people who will nurse grudges over nonsense, and it's better to simply set limits."


    21. "Bruce Springsteen said this in an interview: 'All I do know is as we age, the weight of our unsorted baggage becomes heavier...much heavier. With each passing year, the price of our refusal to do that sorting rises higher and higher.'”


    22. "Choose a job that makes you happy, and stick with it. Chasing the money and the promotions can lead to more stress, less fun, and general depression."

    23. "Start being kinder to the people who are there for you."


    If you're over 40, is there something you wish you knew when you were 20? If so, tell us in the comments below.